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Sunday, 17 May 2009

  • I was accused of having a fake ID

    I few weeks ago, I posted an entry asking everyone how old they thought I was. As I suspected, many people guessed that I was between 15 and 17.

    I'm 19, guys.

    The reason I posted is that there have been many instances, lately, where strangers mistakenly thought I was as young as 14.

    1. In the dining hall of my college, a group of 12-14 year old girls were getting food after a soccer game. I was in line behind three of them, and when it was my turn for some of the oddly-colored meatloaf they were serving that day, the server lady looked at me, surprised, when I didn't walk away with the group. "You aren't with them?" She asked, astonished.

    2. I go roller skating with my sister Friday nights at a local rink. Last week alone I was asked out by not one, not two, but three completely separate boys. Two were 14, one was 15. When each of them asked me, I asked how old they though I was. All three replied 15. No, kids, I'm 5 years older than you. Sorry to disappoint.

    3. (My favorite) I went with two of my guy friends to a smoke shop near campus to get shisha for our hookah. At the door, they always check ID to make sure you are 18. I handed the man my ID, and after he looked back and forth between the picture and my face, he declared that there was no way I was 19, that it must be a fake ID, and that he had to ask me to leave. He definitely was not joking. I looked at him, confused, then said "Dude, if I was going to waste $150 on a fake ID, it'd say I was 21, not 19." He couldn't argue with that.

    I suppose that in ten years I'll be happy when people assume I'm younger than I actually am. For now it's a mild nuisance. Strangers treat me like a child, even though I'm an adult, and the guys I would actually be interested in dating steer clear of me because they think I'm jail bait. Hmph.

Thursday, 09 April 2009

Friday, 06 March 2009

  • What war?

    In high school, we learn about the Civil War, American Revolution, and the two World Wars. We know the battles of Little Big Horn, Bull Run, and The Marne. We know the exact dates of Pearl Harbor and the dropping of the bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. For our current war in Iraq, you are lucky to find a person who can name the day of the invasion. Good luck discovering a person who can tell you any other milestones in the war.

    When we learn about the Civil War, it feels as if the battles happened in everyone’s backyards. The military personnel would march through the streets in full view of the population on their way to the next battle. We see none of this in this far-off Middle Eastern war. All of the battles, and all of the transferring of troops, are done overseas, far away from our eyes. Out of sight, out of mind.

    During World War I, the women of a city would all gather together in town square to hear the names of all the men killed during the most recent battle. This type of information rarely came, and when it did everyone in the area would gather together. In our digitalized world, we see headlines such as “3 Soldiers Shot Dead” on our Yahoo pages every morning. When we see this, we think “Oh, only three men were killed? That’s not much at all!” regardless of if we see similar headlines every day. We do not see the long lists of soldiers killed in action, and so it does not seem that an excessive number of lives are lost.

    Along the same lines, we become desensitized to these frequent headlines. For example, today I saw the headline “Bomb Kills 13 in Baghdad.” Our eyes easily transition from this headline to the next, without so much as a second thought. We do not click on the headline “Violent Blast Kills 10”, but instead select the much more interesting “Paris Hilton Fashion Mistakes” or “Dumped Bachelor Contestant Speaks Out”. We Americans obviously have our priorities straightened out.

    In reality, there IS a war occurring overseas. Do not forget this. There are men and women who are dying to support our country. I don’t care whether or not you agree with the war itself; this is not a reason to forget about those who are fighting it. It is completely possible to support the troops without supporting the war they are fighting. Stop reading your articles about who got voted off American Idol last night, and instead read something that actually matters in this world.


    Do you find yourself forgetting that there is a war going on?

    **edit**
    Beyond just educating oneself about the goings-on overseas... you can help as well. www.anysoldier.com is a website I have known of for a few years. Soldiers post things that their troops need (shampoo, soap, snacks, deodorant, etc.) and you can send a package to them to help out. Please check this site out, these are very basic items that will only cost you a few dollars, but they mean the world to the people overseas.

Thursday, 26 February 2009

  • What to do when your crush is taken

    It sucks when you have a crush on someone who is already taken. The constant disappointment can take a toll on your emotions. You know what you want, but there's always that barrier between the two of you that has the potential to ruin everything: the significant other.

    Here's my general rules for what to do in these situations. I'm going to be speaking of the situation of a girl crushing on a guy who already has a girlfriend, simply because I have been on both sides of this... I have had crushes on people who were already taken, and yet at the same time I have a girl or two who are still chasing after my boyfriend (and they piss me off to no end). This same advice can be taken by a guy crushing on a taken girl... just flip all the genders. Or if you're a guy crushing on a guy, or a girl crushing on a girl... just substitute the proper pronouns. I have faith that you can.


    1. Do not call him "babe", "hun", "sweetie" or any other pet names. Those are reserved for his girlfriend and her only. If she finds out you call him any of these things (whether it be in texts, over AIM, or even to his face), she WILL be pissed. It makes it obvious that you want something more than friendship. This makes her suspicious of your relationship with him.

    2. You may think it sounds like fun to fuck with his girlfriend and make her think there really is something going on between you and her bf. This is a BAD idea. When she gets mad at the bf, more than likely she is going to want him to STOP SPEAKING TO YOU. This means that you lose out. Not exactly what you were going for. You may think that he would never let a girl control him like that... but the reality is that after fighting about it for a week, he'll do anything just to make her shut up. If it comes down to a choice between you and her... I know it sucks, but he'll probably choose her every time. If you were more important and he wanted to choose you every time, he'd be with you, and clearly he's not.

    3. When the two of them get into fights, give advice IF ASKED, but never let your bias show. If every time they get into a stupid little fight you tell him to break it off, he's going to learn that you give shitty advice and he'll never listen to anything you have to say on the subject. When giving advice, try to give it from the same standpoint you would if giving advice to your brother. Do not give advice just because you think it will be good for you in the long run. If he asks you, he values your opinion. Keep it that way.

    4. Don't be overly flirty with him. OK: laughing at his stupid jokes, having inside jokes with him. NOT OKAY: playing with his hair, hugging him (except for a hug good-bye), holding his hand, or any other unnecessay physical contact. Whether his girlfriend is there, or you're hanging out with other friends, or even if you're alone with him, it doesn't matter. No matter who the audience is, he will know exactly what you are doing. He may or may not like the attention you are giving him. If he doesn't like it, then he will make a mental note in his head that you are looking for more than friendship, which will detrimentally affect your friendship in the long run. If he is interested... even if he WERE to break up with his girlfriend to be with you... do you really want the type of guy that will fall victim to any flirtatious girl that crosses his path? Furthermore, this situation will cause a bad relationship between him and his new ex, which will make him unhappy (and trust me, you don't want him upset), and turn the ex into a vampire-esque cannibal that wants to suck your blood dry (you do not need this complication either).

    5. Don't complain to him about how him having a girlfriend sucks. Even if he blatantly knows that you are crushing on him. He OBVIOUSLY won't agree with you. If he did, he WOULD'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. This is a stupid pity-seeking move. He will think you are pathetic in this attempt, which gets you nowhere.

    6. Hanging out with him is fine. Getting mad at him when he's HAD plans with his girlfriend and you want to make last minute plans, on the other hand... You have to accept the fact that in most cases she will come first. It IS ok to let him know how upset you are if he cancels plans with you to hang out with his girlfriend. Don't automatically turn it into an argument - let him know that you are hurt by it and say that he owes it to you to make a new set of plans for some time soon.


    In general your plan should be to:

    Hide your feelings (it's ok to tell him, but not okay to say it more than once, or to show it physically)
    Be his friend first and foremost. That's what he wants out of you right now
    Let things play out between him and his girlfriend, without interfering

    Keeping to these allows you the greatest chance of EVENTUALLY getting with him (although I make no guarantees). It also gives you the best quality of friendship in the in between time.

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